What Is Left When You “Let Go”
Episode #8 of the course How to be happy now … not “then” by Colin Triplett
You may not have realized it, but you just learned my three-step process for getting out of your head and starting to love life again. I call it my AMR Method (Awareness—Meditation—Relaxation), and you can download a guide to support you when you begin by clicking here.
Now that you have the tools, let’s talk about what happens when you start to “let go” and just let life happen.
First, let’s talk about what will go away, then what you will gain.
When you learn to let go, your brain starts quieting down, and you will find that these three things are not part of your life anymore:
Judgment. With no ego to try to keep happy, you no longer have anything to compare to or against. You will stop judging others (and yourself) because there will be nothing external that you value.
Attachment. You will no longer cling to anything or anyone, and therefore, you will not have fear of loss. You can appreciate what you have without worrying about what will happen if you don’t have it anymore.
Resistance. You will no longer fight life. Things will happen, and instead of resisting them, you will accept things for how they are and move forward with your life.
Without judgment, attachment, or resistance in your life, you will gain:
Acceptance. You will be at peace with the world, regardless of what happens. You know that you have little control over what happens and can actually find awe in just how amazing it is that life is happening at all!
Enjoyment. You will actually start to enjoy things again! You will find joy in your daily activities because you are in the present. You will be in a constant state of flow, fully engaged in whatever you are doing.
Enthusiasm. This is my favorite one. You will gain the energy and drive to go after what you really want in life. Why? Because you will know that the purpose of a goal is not that you achieve it, but rather to become someone capable of achieving that goal. You will enjoy the challenge that learning and trying new things can bring, because now failure is a gift for what it teaches you, not a reflection of who you are.
While this is not how you will feel all the time, you will have more moments like this as you continue to follow the AMR Method.
The truth is, when you are on this journey, you sometimes don’t realize the progress that you have made until something happens that would have never happened before.
Maybe you look at a tree and think, “That’s beautiful!” and then realize that you have driven past that tree for the last ten years and never noticed it.
Or, you arrive late to a meeting without any sense of panic and realize that in the past, you would have shown up angry at the world and exhausted from your bout of road rage.
What you will find is that if you start implementing this, every three months or so, you will look back and say, “Wow, I can’t believe how far I’ve come!”
This is what you can look forward to as you begin, because life without ego is an adventure. It is a constantly changing and exciting gift, but only when you let it happen!
When you stop fighting, you start living.
Tomorrow, we will work on perspective. Because as Charles Swindol says: “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it.”
To Your Happiness,
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