The 5 EQ Skills

17.06.2016 |

Episode #3 of the course Understand and manage your emotions by Marcelle Santos


In a previous episode, we learned that EQ is often a better predictor of success than IQ is, and that developing your emotional intelligence can positively impact your relationships, your health, your career, and even your finances. But what is emotional intelligence, exactly?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand how people work. And because people are emotional creatures, what that really means is understanding and managing emotions.

Bringing intelligence to your emotions has several applications: it helps you make better decisions. It makes goal-setting easier. And it improves your ability to understand, communicate with, and influence other people.

If emotional intelligence seems too abstract at first glance, know that it can actually be broken down into five learnable skills:

1. Self-awareness
Self-awareness is the ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions, and drives, as well as their effect on other people. If you have a high degree of self-awareness, you know exactly what makes you tick, what gets you mad, and how you typically react to certain situations. You know what your strengths and weaknesses are, and you’re able to talk about them honestly and openly.

2. Self-regulation
Self-regulation is the ability to control bad moods and emotional impulses and channel them in useful ways. People with a high degree of self-regulation think before acting and are able to say no to impulsive urges. They’re generally seen as thoughtful, reliable, and trustworthy.

3. Motivation
Motivation is the tendency to pursue goals with energy and persistence, even when there are setbacks. People with a high degree of motivation will keep going when things get frustrating and remain hopeful in the face of defeat. When you’re highly motivated, you tend to control your impulses and put off instant gratification. You also tend to be more engaged in the work involved in pursuing your goals.

4. Empathy
Empathy is the ability to put yourself in other people’s shoes. When you’re empathetic, you try to understand how people are feeling and where they are coming from, and you use this understanding to guide your actions. People who are highly empathic tend to be perceived as kind, generous, and altruistic.

5. People skills
People skills means having the ability to manage relationships. If you’re socially skilled, you’re able to get along with all kinds of people. In fact, you even try to create connections with people you’re not very fond of. This means you have a wide circle of acquaintances and a network in place when you need one. You tend to be an excellent team player.

In the next episode, we’ll take a closer look at self-awareness. Self-awareness is the basis of emotional intelligence, the ability the four other EQ skills build on. So you better not miss the next episode!


Recommended book

“Emotional Intelligence 2.0” by Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves


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