Celebrating Your Successes
“It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live an imitation of somebody else’s life with perfection.” —The Bhagavad Gita
Welcome to our final lesson, class!
For our tenth lesson, we will discuss how to reflect upon our Big Goal success, how to choose a new Big Goal, and how to prevent ourselves from conforming to the aspirations of those around us.
The Importance of Celebrating Your Accomplishments
Once you complete your Big Goal, it’s important for you to take the time to consolidate your thoughts and reflect upon what you’ve just achieved. Think about what you accomplished and celebrate your success! Taking a moment to deliberately congratulate yourself whenever you complete a goal will help boost your self-esteem, motivate your future commitments, and prevent you from devaluing your accomplishments as time goes on.
Self-Reflection Questions to Consider before Setting Another Big Goal
After you’ve celebrated your Big Goal success, it’s time to reflect on what you’ve learned from this whole Big Goal experience. It’s best to do this before you choose a new Big Goal because these lessons will never again be as fresh in your mind as they are right now. Here are questions that can help you review your Big Goal journey:
1. What tendencies did you notice in yourself that hindered or helped you as you worked on your Big Goal?
2. What did you struggle with as you worked on your Big Goal?
3. Where did you excel as you worked on your Big Goal?
4. Who helped you along the way to achieving your Big Goal?
5. Who slowed you down or interrupted you as you achieved your Big Goal?
6. What were impactful thoughts that you found yourself thinking along the way to completing your Big Goal?
7. What are the rituals that you developed to help you accomplish your Big Goal?
8. What rituals could have made accomplishing your Big Goal easier?
9. Did you track your Big Goal effectively?
10. How would you probably track your Big Goal if you were to do it all over again?
11. Did you enjoy working on your Big Goal? Did you enjoy finally achieving it?
12. How has achieving your Big Goal improved your life?
Choosing Your Next Big Goal
When choosing what to do next, you’ll have a couple of options. One option is to look back at your goals list from before you completed this Big Goal. This approach lets you choose a new goal without struggling too much to choose because you already know that these goals are important to you. Also, if you still feel strongly about completing any of the goals on your original list, then you’ll be doubly motivated to do what it takes to reach it. The downside to going back to your original goals list is that doing so doesn’t help you incorporate any of the new goals or opportunities that you’ve opened up by achieving your last Big Goal. This is where your second option comes into play: You can choose to create a new Big Goal based on your experiences completing your last one. The downside to this course of action is that you will miss out on the benefits of having built up the same amount of intrinsic motivation to complete the goal.
Both options have their benefits and downsides, but you get to choose which one feels right for you.
One thing to remember is that although accomplishing your most recent goal may have opened up new opportunities for you, each of these opportunities will require its own time commitment to complete, so you must be careful to prioritize the goals that are right for you—goals that align with your values and speak to your heart. Don’t compromise your beliefs for the sake of any future successes. Also, you can accomplish even the most daunting Big Goal as long as you thoughtfully plan it out and utilize the methods you’ve learned in this course.
Preventing Goal Creep
It’s easy to get led astray by the crowd. As humans, we are driven by the decisions of the group. When we hear about others’ goals, we tend to imitate them. Their desires could color your thinking: You could find yourself pursuing similar interests to theirs without feeling otherwise intrinsically motivated to do so. But while their goals might be right for them, are they really what you want to achieve? Allowing the people around you to influence your goals could take you farther away from where you want to be in the long run. To complicate matters, if other people’s goals also seem to be the right goals for you, then you will have direct competitors to deal with as you both try to accomplish the same tasks. Your success will be more difficult to attain and potentially less appreciated once it is achieved if you try to aim for what everyone else is going for. A much better option is to choose different goals from the people around you—possibly even goals that no one else is pursuing—so you are only competing with yourself.
Historian and philosopher René Girard refers to this phenomenon as Mimesis. Mimesis is when you desire something simply because someone else desires it. This leads to Goal Creep, which is when your goals begin to take on the characteristics of other people’s goals. If you want to track how powerful this effect can be, then jot down each time someone shares their goals or ambitions with you and see if your mind or interests start drifting more toward whatever they hope to accomplish. You can start chronicling the influence that others have on your aspirations here.
Now, just because no one else is pursuing a particular goal doesn’t mean that it’s inherently the right goal for you. The important thing to remember is that you should always judge the worthiness (and worthwhileness) of a Big Goal independently of what the people around you are trying to achieve. Choose your own goals and base them on what you truly want, what you can do, and where you are most likely to succeed. Don’t let other people unduly influence you.
And with that, congratulations!
You’ve made it to the end of this course! Hopefully, you now feel better equipped to plan out and accomplish whatever it is you want to do in your life. Hold yourself to high standards and forgive yourself for not always being perfect. It’s time to take charge and decide what direction you will take your life in order to build upon all your exceptional successes!
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We wish you all the best in your future endeavors!
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